We Don’t Need More Martyrs
I want to remind you how empowering it is to put yourself first. Bringing your gifts to the world in an impactful and sustainable way means putting self-care at the top of your priority list.
Playing the relentless martyr doesn’t fly when it comes to bringing your best. That’s a game of manipulation and it’s not what I support or recommend. To have the most helpful impact on others, you have to serve as a role model of self-love and self-respect through the practice of uncompromising self-care.
This gives permission to those around you to do the same. The way you live your life is an example, good or bad, to everyone you encounter.
Self-love and self-care create a sustainable energy for your service to the world. Witness this in any of the great leaders of our times. They didn’t (or don’t) neglect self-care. It’s a non-negotiable when it comes to doing great things, big or small, in the world.
Alignment over hustle, this is the feminine way of power. It’s rooted in who you are and how you are in the world over what you do, do, do. What you do should have substance & quality over quantity.
Martyrdom has a sticky disingenuous quality about it. It may appear admirable and selfless at first glance but look a little longer and you’ll feel, It smacks of manipulation and attention seeking. “Poor me. Look at all I do and the sacrifices I make. Aren’t I so giving?” No, there’s an agenda there, always, and it can be felt, even if only on a subtle level. It’s not service in love. It comes from a place of low self-esteem that cries out for love. It comes from a place of trauma and a need for control.
When you provide yourself with love and ask for what you need, you can give to the world through love, not need. Those you serve won’t feel in your debt, they’ll feel love and loyalty. When your cup’s full, you’ll raise those around you. It’s a different energy. It empowers all. When you have true self-respect you’re able to give respect to others.
You can’t give from a place of emptiness. You must fill your cup first and then give from the overflow. This is a sustainable, beautiful service.
So first, learn to love and nurture yourself. Heal your wounds. Explore who you are. This will take time, but the world doesn’t need more martyrs. The world needs authenticity, it needs grounded warriors of love. This and only this can save humanity from its own path of destruction.
What are your self-care practices? Share them with us. We can all use more examples.
What are your fears or discomforts around self-care?
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